First of all we want to make clear that we are no experts on this area, it’s all based on our own experiences.
So let’s get into it.
As all of you know how and when Camille and I came out, we want to talk about if there’s a right or wrong, good or bad way to come out in this blog as you can tell from the title.
For us there is no wrong, right, good or bad way to come out, there’s only one way and that’s the one which is perfect for you.
That includes confidence with you are, loving yourself for who you are, the right timing, knowing who or if you want to tell someone…
If you’re loving yourself and you are confident with yourself and you’re accepting yourself than you have a stronger backbone, that could help withstand bullies or general hate, that the LGBTQ community unfortunately still faces, better. Because you won’t care much and you shouldn’t anyways about what others think about you.
Why do we even have to talk about how to come out? It’s because society isn’t tolerating or respecting people that aren’t “normal” ,in their opinion. There are always gonna be people that just want to spread hate around the world, that isn’t just affecting the LGBTQ community, but also people that are having different opinions, skin colour, belief, beauty, appearance, language, culture, ways of living, income.
Everything that people don’t have or everything they’re not, is a target and a threat to them, and therefore they start to manipulate, bully, insult, hurt, even kill.
What you have to understand and always remember, is that those people are doing this to cover up their insecurities and hate towards the world.
It’s easy to say, and we both had to learn this, but never take it personal. Those people are not even worthy to talk about, think about or cry about.
So as you can see, we’re living in the 21st century and there’s still hate, discrimination, bullying, killing. And unfortunately it will always exist. So to be happy with yourself and having that backbone is gonna help you and you might even inspire others like we are hopefully inspiring you while reading this.
Our tips that helped us feeling confident to come:
accept yourself
not judging yourself
seeing yourself as normal
don’t care what others could think or say
sharing it with someone you trust, before coming out publicly
doing it whenever YOU feel like you’re ready
find LGBTQ groups online
find supporting system in people that already came out
You came out but your family or friends are not supportive:
don’t feel alone, because you’re not! (we know that’s easier said than done)
make connections online, there’s a huge community that is so supportive
follow accounts that talk about the community, raise awareness, and explain what you need to know or find someone you can call
Find those groups or accounts on i.e.
Instagram: lgbt, lgbtq, pride, queer
on Facebook: LGBTQ+ Community 🏳️🌈, LGBTQIA+ Community LGBTQ+ Community
call a hotline: https://lgbtqia.ucdavis.edu/support/hotlines these toll-free lines are staffed by either trained LGBTQIA youth or adults, or by trained youth or adults that are LGBTQ friendly. You can call anonymously and they’ll keep everything they talk about with you confidential!
So that’s it, we just want you to know that those are just tips that helped us, that doesn’t necessarily mean that those are the tips that work in the perfect way for you, but you’ll find your way and you’ll be out loud and proud! If you don’t want to come out publicly or not at all then this of course is absolutely okay as well.
REMEMBER: YOU have to be happy in the end, no one else!
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